Female First: Embrace Your Femininity, Own Who You Are

Credits: Deborah Gaytant Boudoir

We live in a time where we work very fiercely around self-care. We do massive amounts of sports, eat healthy food and indulge in massage. Deborah Gaytant Boudoir explains why Boudoir photography is the absolute pinnacle of making yourself feel loved. 

Deborah (32) is the face behind Deborah Gaytant Boudoir. She became a mom to Ellie (2.5) in the summer of 2020 and saw her own body completely changed by the pregnancy. She started looking for a way to portray the power of her body and ended up with boudoir photography: a relatively unknown niche in Belgium, which came from the Netherlands.

In addition to her video production house that she runs with her boyfriend, she started boudoir photography in late 2020. This form of photography revolves around intimate and elegant shots. It creates strength and self-confidence. Today’s beauty ideals don’t make it easy for us. 

Deborah lets you embrace your femininity, overcome your fears and believe in yourself again. And this from woman to woman, in a tasteful way. This grew very quickly the first year and so today she can call herself a full-time boudoir photographer. Today she has already helped more than 150 women on their path to self-love.

Do it first and foremost for yourself. You deserve this!

Breaking taboo

And anyone who says “Boudoir photography is only for women with bodies the way society expects us to”: Girl, you could not be more wrong. Deborah is happy to prove you wrong. Women from size XS to XXXL are all welcome with her. Also, it is often assumed that boudoir is for the partner, as a gift, but more and more women are doing this for themselves first and foremost. Does it benefit the partner, too? Absolutely. But you do you first. 

The style in which she photographs also appeals greatly: Forget bright lights, white backgrounds, and “a sultry look at the camera.” She makes it happen so spontaneously that the photos you see afterwards are the real you: Authenically yourself. You don’t have to worry about the poses either: Deborah does everything herself first, so it’s clear to you what to do. By working with heavy shadows, soft light and a cozy studio, she creates sexy, romantic and feminine photos. Boudoir does not have to be vulgar.

If not now, then when?

Personal note from Deborah

Boudoir photography has my heart. I could never have imagined that I could be so passionate about something. Every day I see women blossom in my studio and that makes me genuinely happy. I strive for a world where we don’t try to compare ourselves to the pictures we see on Social Media. Photos with so many filters on them that we become almost unrecognizable. Bodies put through photoshop to have the “perfect” measurements. The values I impart to my clients are also the values I hope to raise my own daughter with. We are beautiful just the way we are.

I see so much diversity coming through, and that’s a lot of fun. Sometimes women come to me to celebrate themselves because it’s their birthday and this is a milestone for them (think turning 30, or 40, or 50). Pregnant women are also very welcome with me. Not all mama-to-be want the standard maternity photos. This is the time when you are -in my eyes- at your most feminine, so why not boudoir photos? Brides also come to me. They then give their partner on the day of the wedding a gift that says “This is me. This is what you are going to spend the rest of your life with”.

But I also see women who carry baggage with them. Who really struggle with themselves every day and want to see themselves through another pair of eyes. I am those eyes. For everyone, every woman, with my full heart.


Do you need more inspiration to put yourself first and embrace who you are? Then be sure to read these Female First articles as well. 

This article has been written in collaboration with Deborah Gaytant Boudoir

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