Last month we did research with Blogzine on how taboo sex in Belgium. The research shows that 80 percent watches porn. And no less than 1 in 4 does that every day. Yet other figures show that there are still a lot of taboos around public nudity.
Nudity is not sex. Nor pornography. It is the human form reduced visually into its purest state. Uncensored and untainted.
More than half of those surveyed in last month’s online sex survey indicate that they would never send nudes to a stranger. The same half also agrees that they don’t like receiving nudes from other people.
“To be completely honest, I share nudes frequently. And I don’t mind receiving them. For me there’s not much taboo about sending a hot pic to someone you are into. But there has to be mutual consent. I don’t always like just anyone sending me images. And I don’t go around sending them to just anyone either.”
In a more anonymous survey I asked people about nudity on social media. Over 60% says that they like seeing naughty or provocative images on social media, however 85% of them still thinks it is a very private thing to do. Compared to the number of people who visit porn sites every day, this is an odd ratio.
With the rise of social media we increasingly see more people on platforms such as Instagram that embrace nudity as a way of sharing content with their community. Yet those who post nudes (especially girls) get the label of being vulgar very quickly when they share a naughty picture. Or they become the lust object of others who won’t leave them alone anymore.
I went into dialogue with Phenyx Rose and Nkd.dan. Both have an amazing Instagram feed created out of hundreds of nudes. During a live interview on Instagram I asked them questions about topics such as prejudices, the impact on their professional lives, indecent proposals,…
Hello Phenyx Rose
I met Phenyx Rose when I was traveling in Jamaica in 2018. Behind this beautiful woman with an even more beautiful smile, hides an incredibly fascinating story. She has a bachelors degree in psychology, works in cyber security as well as being a model and TV host. Since a few years she posts nudes on her instagram.
“I started as a model, but after a while I noticed things started to change. My jobs shifted from modeling to attending parties and events. While at the time I was still posting mostly images with clothes on, I didn’t want to promote brands that didn’t pay me for it. After a while I just stopped posting images of me wearing clothes at all. It just happened naturally.”
Phenyx Rose likes to keep her work and private life separate and that goes for her Instagram account too. She makes no secret of it, only there is a time and place to talk about it, she says:
“I don’t mix business. When I am at work people don’t even think I ever wear makeup. I don’t consider what I am doing to be taboo, although it isn’t accepted completely yet. That is why I don’t mix. When I am at a job and someone approaches me, wanting to talk about my instagram. I kindly suggest that we reschedule the talk for a better time an place. I am on a job, so I want to be professional at all times.”
When I ask her about indecent proposals or people taken advantage of her, she is very clear:
“I’m not responsible for what my pictures do to someone’s mind. How someone reacts to them, is his or her responsibility. Every day I get proposals for sex. What I do or not do with them is my business. Usually I also ignore negative comments and negative energy. I am a strong woman and I show the beauty of being a woman. By the way, I only work with professionals who take my pictures. Once in a while such a photographer is really super sexy. How I deal with that, I decide for myself. But professionalism always comes first.”
Being on social media, means being under the constant watch op thousands of people. That can weigh heavily sometimes. So you have to be a strong person and feel good about yourself in order to share nude images with the whole world. Phenyx shares her opinion:
“I don’t always feel pretty. And sometimes I share that with my followers, now and then I get reactions of people that don’t understand why I say what I say. But I mean, I was a tooth pick when I was younger, and now I look like this. I didn’t do any surgery, although I have nothing against it either. But I am just 100 % natural. Which means that I too have days I don’t feel well. And being on social media puts on an extra layer of pressure. But you know what: I try to live in positivity as much as possible, so I don’t give attention to bad comments. I give them as little energy as possible. And when things go to bad, I can always block them. ”
Thank you Phenyx for the talk!
Meet Nkd.dan
I met with Dan through his page on Instagram: Nkd.dan. We started following eachother and became friends over time. We have been supporting eachothers content ever since. Nkd.dan is his online alter ego where he posts his famous bum shots at home, in nature or on vacation. He is originally from Venuzuela but lives in the beautiful Norway with his boyfriend.
I started this account because of my boyfriend. He is the one behind the camera taking every pic. One day he just said: why don’t you post pictures on Instagram. So I did and here we are!
Most people in Dan’s personal life are aware of his account. However Dan has blocked them on instagram, so they don’t see his posts. As for his job and colleagues, they don’t know about it. And he wants it to keep it like that.
“My friends and family know about my account. In the beginning I blocked all of my relatives and close friends, because I didn’t want them to find out. You know, when you start a new account Instagram suggests it to almost every one in your contact list. I didn’t want them to find out until I was comfortable enought to share it. Now I don’t mind anymore. The first time my mom saw my nkd.dan account she was a bit shocked, but she is okay with it now.”
Because Dan is an attractive young, proud gay man, he does get a lot of compliments. And with them a lot of offers by some of his male followers. But he doesn’t mind, he knew that might happen.
“Most people are very positive about my account. And I know what I am putting out there. So it is normal that some people will aks me personal questions or do proposals. Some have offered me free paid trips, or job offers to work as a gogo dancer. I am very flattered ofcourse, but I have never been tempted to accept any of these proposals. I have a boyfriend, we are happy together. And we can travel by our own means, so we don’t need someone to offer us a paid trip.”
Dan lives in Norway so I asked him about being a gay man where he lives:
“Being openly LGBTQI+ in Norway is actually awesome. In fact, it is even frowned upon to be against it and to be queerphobic. The Pride is helping so much to normalize it here. My only complaint is that there aren’t enough gay clubs, because it is so normal to be gay.”
Thank you Dan!
Reading this has inspired you to share a #bumfie on instagram? Just do it, because you are beautiful! Oh and don’t forget to tag us in it @blogzine.be.
